How about we say; this far and no farther!

This far and no further

As a weight management specialist, it alarms me to see how many people are becoming more and more complacent about their size.

Even some doctors are jumping on the bandwagon citing any study they can find to say it’s okay that our nation keeps getting bigger and bigger.

It’s no secret we’re social creatures. Since more of us are bigger, there’s less pressure to lose weight. It’s more socially acceptable to be overweight.

In regions where children are predominantly overweight, it’s now the normal weight child who gets picked on in school instead of the other way around.

I certainly dealt with social pressure many times in my life. When I weighed my heaviest, I lived in a Pennsylvania county where most women were significantly overweight.

By comparison, I was thin despite creeping up on 180+ pounds. I’ll admit I used that as my excuse for a very long time. “I know I’m overweight, but at least I’m not as big as them…”

Some day becomes today

No matter what is socially acceptable, the fact remains the heavier you are the lower your quality of life. The more often you’re likely to get sick. The more likely you are to suffer diseases.

It’s one thing to take an attitude of why it’s okay not to lose weight, but the problem doesn’t stop there. That person usually isn’t doing anything to keep from gaining any more weight.

That means one day she will be as big as the people she was comparing herself to when she excused her complacency for not losing weight.

This far and no farther!

Yes, losing weight is hard. I know, because I’ve done it. I’ve lost over 60 pounds. I maintained that loss for seven years.

I gained 13 pounds after a surgery and physical activity restriction in 2012. I rediscovered just how hard it is to lose weight again, but I got most of it back off and now I’m back in maintenance.

I might disagree with the idea of staying a heavier-than-healthy weight, but I also respect people’s decisions that they’re comfortable where they are.

My question to you; what are you doing to stay there?

Because without knowledge of healthy eating, without a game plan, without actively ensuring you don’t continue to gain more and more weight each year, eventually even the more lenient doctor is going to say to you, “You really need to consider losing some weight.”

What’s your next step?

Eating healthy isn’t rocket science. The problem isn’t usually in knowing what to do. The problem is overcoming years of bad habits.

Doing what you’ve always done is easier, because it’s what you’re comfortable doing, it’s what you do without thinking.

So let’s take away the pressure of trying to lose weight. Let’s start with maintaining. Taking this approach means you can slowly change habits you’re willing to change and ready to change.

It won’t take many changes to keep from gaining more weight. And that’s half the battle. If you’ve been gaining 3 to 5 pounds per year, in ten year’s you’ll have saved yourself from gaining another 30 to 50 pounds.

You might even find that some weight drops off anyway even though you weren’t really trying. If that makes you willing to attempt more habit changes to keep the weight-loss going, great!

But even if you’re just grateful for the few pounds lost, but don’t pursue it further, at least you stopped gaining.

Are you ready to say, “This far and no farther!”

If so, how are you planning to change your habits? Do you know where to start?

I have a 20-week coaching plan that slowly and incrementally helps women, just like you, make those needed changes. My plan will help you identify what about your current habits are working against you.

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  1. cj says:

    Lori! Great post! I can recall clearly being overweight and very uncomfortable in my clothing, yet I weighed only 165-170 and I am 5’9″. That was about 2003 or so. By today’s standards, I’d be called skinny!!!! My belly was popping out of my pants! My cholesterol was skyrocketing. We have to get a grip on what a human body looks like when it is performing optimally. The US is not even in the ballpark. Have a nifty one!!!

    • Lori says:

      Thanks, CJ!

      I like your concept of performing optimally. It doesn’t mean you have to look like you’re competing for Mr. Universe. What’s more important is being able to walk for miles, climb stairs and other steep terrain and be functional enough to heave some weight around.

      I often feel if people did more camping with just basic gear or if they went back to making some of their food homemade (just think of the workout you’d get kneeding dough!) they’d get a better picture of what it means to have functional strength and the body that goes with that.

      • cj says:

        Thanks Lori!!! I agree, no Mr Universe, just functional, able to take stairs and hills with ease, walk for many miles if desired. This is what humans did daily for hundreds of thousands of years. How did we get so far form that???

        • Lori says:

          How, indeed. The attitude of “why do work when I can have a machine do it for me” needs to be revisited. Where’s the sense in having modern conveniences do our physical activity for us all day and then spend money to go to the fitness center to work out on yet another machine? What a racket!